Parkinson’s – the least of my problems

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Your life consists of good and not good. Regardless of whether that’s self-induced or caused by someone or something else. Sometimes it can hover between the two, sort of semi-good. But mostly it’s simply good or not good.

From ‘everything is good’ to ‘everything is most certainly not good’

If you’re diagnosed with Parkinson’s when everything is good, then your entire world collapses. At least, that’s what it feels like. Until you realise that the world simply keeps turning. It might take a while, but there really does come a day when you wake up and think, “Huh? Did we really think that the world would simply stand still? So, who was it that got things going again? Oh well, onwards and upwards! I mean, I might as well carry on if my world refuses to collapse.”

And, with Parkinson’s hanging round your neck, you carry on. Your life is more or less in balance again. Parkinson’s is huge, but not so huge that you can’t see past it from time to time. I often recall what my grandmother said when our daughter died: “You don’t have to get over it. If you can look past it from time to time, then that’s enough.”

Parkinson’s is, at any rate, less huge than death. You might not reach a ripe old age, but you can certainly live with it for a long time. And I now understand what it’s like not to be able to achieve 100%, 90% and sometimes even 50% of what I used to. I know what I miss and what I’m going to miss. I’m not the only one who ‘misses’ by the way. I’m also a wife, mother, friend, sister, colleague. What I miss, they also miss me in.

Good and Not Good

And you live on with Parkinson’s. Everything’s good, so long as the good things and the not good – things are in balance. The Not Good Container is heavy, but so too is the Good Container. And, if you’re lucky, your good-container is heavier than your not-good-one.

Things go wrong when you start to question that balance. “Something bad is about to happen and my not-good-container will become too heavy.” You’re afraid that something’s going to happen to your husband/child/friend. Because that would be truly terrible, so much more terrible than Parkinson’s. 

It’s not Parkinson’s, but fear that’s the worst

It’s not Parkinson’s, but your fear of yet another addition to your not-good-container that’s the worst. Things are becoming  truly ominous. And what that dark container doesn’t already hold, you throw in yourself. Such as your worries about money, paying the mortgage, your weight or even your wrinkles. That’s what keeps you awake at night. Not what you’re losing to Parkinson’s, but what you need in order to keep your good and not-good-containers in balance. Your fear, your difficulties, your grief are the true heavyweights in your not-good-container. Parkinson’s, no matter how miserable, is the least of your problems.

You know yourself what the heavyweights in your good container are…

5 thoughts to “Parkinson’s – the least of my problems”

  1. Parkinson’s is like walking through the forest at night. It’s what you can’t see that you are afraid of. It been my feeling, that the more daylight we can shine on Parkinson’s the less frightening it becomes.

  2. That is so true Gary each day is so different with Parkinson’s but every day is different for all people so you are not being singled out .Fear of the unknown should be left on the backburner the future will be and cannot be halted live in the now and take each day as it presents itself as a challenge and a teacher we still have life left to live

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