Things that you do/don’t/never have to get used to

 Oh, I could get used to that! That glorious sunshine, that peace and tranquillity, that plush bed, that fancy house.

You’d better get used to it. There’s nothing else for it.

Hm, this might take a bit of getting used to. This getting up at 6 am business. Ugh!

 Well, you’ll just have to get used to it. It’s not going to change.

I’ll never get used to the fact that he/she is no longer around.

I wouldn’t get too used to it, if I were you. It’s not a given that he/she will continue doing everything for you. You’d better appreciate it.

Those learning the Dutch language quickly encounter the word ‘wennen’ (to get used to). Try completing the sentences: you do get used to it/they’ll just have to get used to it/yep, tricky that, if you’re not used to it.

Things that you do have to get used to

I can think of plenty. You have to get used to the fact that you can no longer do everything that you’re used to being able to do, for example. If you can’t get used to that, you’ll drive yourself crazy with frustration. I have to get used to the fact that I can no longer do without my medication. Which is something that I can get used to, by the way. Because I’m so grateful that those meds exist. I also have to get used to the fact that our daughter is on the other side of the world. Come to think of it; I don’t have to get used to that. Because I know that she’s coming back. So, it’s not forever. That makes all the difference. I do have to get used to the fact that I still make the same mistakes as before. So, I guess what I’m really saying, is that I have to get used to myself. And getting used to me is not easy, I can tell you. How often have I said to myself that I need to adopt a more structured routine, for example? Apply a bit of discipline etc. But nope, I refuse to listen to myself. I can’t get used to myself. My network likely can’t either. Not that I intend asking them. Nah, they’ll get used to me. Just kidding.

Things that you don’t have to get used to

Wim Rozenberg Fotografie #wjrpicsYou don’t have to get used to the finer things. The good things in life. Like the feeling you get when you pluck an apple from a tree. Or the confidence that you can continue doing all of the things that you do now. And you don’t have to get used to all that you have. From clean socks to children to security.

Neither do you have to get used to life’s unpleasantries. Okay, you might have to get used to some of them. But, as far as I’m concerned, not the worst ones. Getting used to something implies that you’re adapting to the situation. Which is no bad thing, because that situation certainly won’t adapt to you. I reckon that I only need to get partly used to Parkinson’s. It certainly requires a bit of getting used to. But what if I were to get completely used to it? Would that leave me with sufficient fight?

Things that you must never get used to. Never ever.

I’m sure you can think of your own. The abuse, injustice or grief of another, for example. Get used to that, and you become indifferent. And indifference is the opposite of love. It’s even worse if you deliberately turn a blind eye. Because you’re afraid. Or because you’re busy doing something important or something more fun. You risk getting used to your own indifference.

You never, ever have to get used to the greatest loss. Because you cannot and will refuse to get used to it. It’s simply too huge to get used to. You can’t even begin to get used to it.

In my opinion, you should never get used to your Life either. Because it’s anything but ordinary. Neither is it a given. So, perhaps you need to take better care of your Life from time to time. It could certainly get used to some occasional pampering :0)

 

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